When you give yourself the gift of unconditionally loving yourself, you worry not about what anyone else is thinking about you!
Because the truth is, you can’t control it and it doesn’t matter anyway! Those people will eventually be gone from your life and you’ll be left with you. It’s best to be left with someone you can respect and enjoy being around.
Procrastination is a beautiful thing. It reminds us to pause and take our time to get into perfect alignment with any action before we take it. The outcome is without a doubt sweet success every single time!
Trust the process babe. Take a deep breath and enjoy where you are. Believe it or not, this is your dream come true!
It is never about what you decide to do; it is always about how you feel about what you decide to do. Why? Because inspired action is the only action! And that’s a fact, jack.
Seeking approval from others might feel good for a moment but if you want a feel-good that’s sustainable, do what’s right by you. After all is said and done, you’re the one who has to live with the repercussions of your actions.
Bullies often learn their bullying behaviors from others and frequently they learn it in their own home from their own family members. For those born into a pattern of bullying it may be hard to decipher the bullying behaviors that are a part of daily, “normal” life.
Many times, those who are bullied at home then seek a person smaller or weaker than them that they can bully so they can regain a sense of power. These patterns can be very unconscious. In this show, Cynthia Lamb can help you see the pattern so you can break it.
In this bullying podcast, you’ll understand how bullying behavior is based on a “better than”/”less than” mentality where one person asserts dominance over another based on a familial or societal beliefs. It is a “victim/perpetrator” way of dealing with relationships. Many traditional families have belief systems such as “boys are better than girls” or “quiet children who follow rules are better than children who challenge authority and convention”.
Based on these beliefs, bullying is justified. Bullying makes the person in the “superior” position feel good about him/herself momentarily but later he/she may feel bad about being a bully or need to increase the bullying behavior to get the same rush. This person might also place themselves in a position where they are bullied because they believe they “deserve it.”
The way to heal bullying is compassion. It is important to acknowledge that bullying is a form of fear-based power. It can be titilating for the bully to “get away with” his or her behavior because it is “bad” and “taboo” and the bully will try to instill enough fear into the person they are bullying so they don’t tell and the bully doesn’t get caught.
A bully can never get enough of a rush to overcome his or her feelings of powerlessness. They often have to find ways to “get even” or they are around people who bully them. Therefore, the coin keeps flipping sides: victim, perpetrator, victim, perpetrator.
Once you become aware of the bullying pattern you can stop it. It might help to investigate the dynamic, (i.e., where did it come from?, when did it start?, is it working?)
If you decide to break the cycle of bullying in your family, you can help others by educating them about what you’re doing and why. Some will decide to join you because they too are sick of the destruction caused by bullying.
In a family with children, parents have to be on board if they hope to stop the pattern of bullying in their home. Children are easily influenced by their parents and rely on their parents for guidance. Kids can’t easily break multi-generational patterns of abuse on their own.
If you are the bully, it’s important to engage in self-forgiveness. Don’t place shame or blame on anyone, including yourself. Remember, the underlying belief that drives bullying is: “Better than, less than”. Begin to adopt a mindset of “We are all equal” and that includes you.
If you are in a relationship that is mutually bullying, (i.e. you bully each other) choose not to play. If you refuse to react and respond to bullying with more bullying, something will change.
Hold the knowing that you are equal, you are not “above” or “below” anyone. Accept yourself as you are and it will be easier to accept others as they are. Visualize a new pattern, see how you’d like to relate to others in the future. Let go of fear-based, perfectionistic communication.
Once you drop fear, loving comes in its place. With practice, you can let go of the pattern of bullying and even learn to laugh at the bullies in your life, including the one between your own ears.
Cynthia Lamb is a spiritual counselor in private practice. She works Internationally to facilitate the global awakening. You can find her blog at: cynthialamb.wordpress.com/
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Music and words are powerful forms of communication. The combination of the two can make you dance, smile, laugh and sing. That’s why I created a special mix with a blend of Christoper Westra’s Money Meditation along with popular funk beats.
Christoper Westra is in my master mind group called We-Wow. Other members include Thea Westra, Chris Cade and Nick Pfenningwerth. Each one of us does business on the internet and the core of our business is supplying empowering content to our subscribers. Our mission statement is: “To cultivate increased life for all, to motivate with passion, to educate with true ideas, to abolish fears, and to inspire others to live consciously, joyfully, and prosperously.”
When I created this audio with a new twist I felt like I was living true to this mission statement. My hope is that this audio will create a new pathway in your mind where you can begin to feel joyful and excited about manifesting money. To get a sampling of free downloads, including the Funky Money Meditation I created, go to: http://www.forwardsteps.com.au/upgrademymoney.html